Your sexual life after you discovered you contacted genital herpes
If you only learned that you contacted herpes there are a lot of things that wander through your mind:
- Why me?
- How did it happen? How did I permit it to happen?
- Why did I trust that person, I wish I could reverse time and modify everything?
- I wager everybody (my friends, family, people on the street) knows I have an STD by merely taking a look at me?
- Everybody must think I am promiscuous
- What do you imply there is absolutely no cure? I can not keep on living with this disease my entire existence, if all the breakouts are similar to this one, life is not endurable?
- How will I ever have sex again, find another lover, get married, have children?
And the list goes on.
To get back your life you need to do several things:
- go to the health care provider: get screened, collect prescription, receive medical information and information
- get well informed: learn about the studies: 1 in 4 adults have genital herpes, 9 out of 10 are infected with oral herpes. Understand that you are not alone, not exceptional, if you are promiscuous, so is everybody else. Get at ease with the disease, don't think yourself as an outsider from now on.
- take your prescriptions, dietary supplements, topical treatments that help you manage your episodes
- make the proper lifestyle and nutritional changes (not too major, simple things that you should have done anyway a long time ago: like eat healthy, do sports,etc). These will put you in control of your breakouts and your life once more. The loss of control made you spiral down through all those negative sentiments, but now you are in control of your life again.
- get support. Find friends or support organizations that go through the same disease. They will make you feel that you are not alone, especially between understanding people.
You will soon start feeling normal, happy, in control of your life, ready to give the €sexual life€ a new try.
The 1st romantic meeting may might seem a little odd and you may feel like you're holding a bad secret. There is this question: When is the right time to tell your date you have herpes? Don't blurt it out, wait for the appropriate time. You may want to adjust your strategy of starting a new romantic relationship with sex, get to know each other first, enjoy kissing, cuddling, and fondling each other, they are safe, you need not tell your date about the herpes yet. It might be better to break the news about your herpes to a person when s/he has already grown attached to you.
But don't wait too long either, don't wait until after having sex, don't wait until you're just about to have sex -- in which case the attraction may be too powerful for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.
Of course there exists a probability that you may get turned down, be prepared for it. Don't fall back to your old dark feelings, get in touch with your friends and support group for help, they may have just the right tips for you.
Continue going out and you will find somebody who wants to be with you with herpes and all
If you are not confident enough to start dating again you should know that there are plenty of dating services or personal ads particular to people with STDs
It is not my subject today, but just to mention it, I want you to know that you can still merry, have kids and grow old together having herpes.
- Why me?
- How did it happen? How did I permit it to happen?
- Why did I trust that person, I wish I could reverse time and modify everything?
- I wager everybody (my friends, family, people on the street) knows I have an STD by merely taking a look at me?
- Everybody must think I am promiscuous
- What do you imply there is absolutely no cure? I can not keep on living with this disease my entire existence, if all the breakouts are similar to this one, life is not endurable?
- How will I ever have sex again, find another lover, get married, have children?
And the list goes on.
To get back your life you need to do several things:
- go to the health care provider: get screened, collect prescription, receive medical information and information
- get well informed: learn about the studies: 1 in 4 adults have genital herpes, 9 out of 10 are infected with oral herpes. Understand that you are not alone, not exceptional, if you are promiscuous, so is everybody else. Get at ease with the disease, don't think yourself as an outsider from now on.
- take your prescriptions, dietary supplements, topical treatments that help you manage your episodes
- make the proper lifestyle and nutritional changes (not too major, simple things that you should have done anyway a long time ago: like eat healthy, do sports,etc). These will put you in control of your breakouts and your life once more. The loss of control made you spiral down through all those negative sentiments, but now you are in control of your life again.
- get support. Find friends or support organizations that go through the same disease. They will make you feel that you are not alone, especially between understanding people.
You will soon start feeling normal, happy, in control of your life, ready to give the €sexual life€ a new try.
The 1st romantic meeting may might seem a little odd and you may feel like you're holding a bad secret. There is this question: When is the right time to tell your date you have herpes? Don't blurt it out, wait for the appropriate time. You may want to adjust your strategy of starting a new romantic relationship with sex, get to know each other first, enjoy kissing, cuddling, and fondling each other, they are safe, you need not tell your date about the herpes yet. It might be better to break the news about your herpes to a person when s/he has already grown attached to you.
But don't wait too long either, don't wait until after having sex, don't wait until you're just about to have sex -- in which case the attraction may be too powerful for either of you to think rationally and act responsibly.
Of course there exists a probability that you may get turned down, be prepared for it. Don't fall back to your old dark feelings, get in touch with your friends and support group for help, they may have just the right tips for you.
Continue going out and you will find somebody who wants to be with you with herpes and all
If you are not confident enough to start dating again you should know that there are plenty of dating services or personal ads particular to people with STDs
It is not my subject today, but just to mention it, I want you to know that you can still merry, have kids and grow old together having herpes.