Boldness VS Confidence
Real courage and confidence is not easy.
Walking up to a girl and engaging her in conversation is not easy if you're a shy or have little experience.
Now consider these two openers: "Hi my name's Greg.
Have you ever had Mexican food? Because I had some today and it was so hot it was like my mouth was on fire.
" "Hey baby? Are you an alien? Because your but is out of this world!" Which one takes more confidence? And which one takes more courage? And which one would you expect a natural ladies man to use? Clearly the smooth cool dude would be more likely to open with the first one.
Only a drunken fool would open with something as retarded as the second opener.
Which opener takes more courage? I believe the first opener takes more courage.
With the introducing yourself opener you're putting yourself on the line, your own personality is put out there to be accepted on rejected.
Put simply.
The second opener is bold the first is confident.
Other examples of boldness: -The apocalypse opener -Grabbing a girls arm when she is walking past -"I like salad.
" -Grabbing a girl on the dance floor -Going for the make out after a minute -Pushing for sex instead of just letting sex happen People are often mistaking boldness for confidence.
The apocalypse opener is a good experiment to try and I'm not saying you can't get laid from it but don't you think it's screwed up that lots of guys are more scared to go up and introduce themselves then to go up and ask the girl to come back to their bedroom? I know that's often the case with me.
Let's say you're talking to a girl for about a minute and its going great.
Then you try and kiss her.
What purpose does that serve? You're just trying to impress your mates; a truly confident person, a confident ladies man, would chill until a bit more time has passed.
I guess what I'm saying is this.
Yes, boldness has its place, and boldness is better than nothing.
But were not here to get dance floor make outs or to hide behind a gurus flashy techniques.
Try going up and introducing yourself with a calm voice.
Now that's real confidence.
Walking up to a girl and engaging her in conversation is not easy if you're a shy or have little experience.
Now consider these two openers: "Hi my name's Greg.
Have you ever had Mexican food? Because I had some today and it was so hot it was like my mouth was on fire.
" "Hey baby? Are you an alien? Because your but is out of this world!" Which one takes more confidence? And which one takes more courage? And which one would you expect a natural ladies man to use? Clearly the smooth cool dude would be more likely to open with the first one.
Only a drunken fool would open with something as retarded as the second opener.
Which opener takes more courage? I believe the first opener takes more courage.
With the introducing yourself opener you're putting yourself on the line, your own personality is put out there to be accepted on rejected.
Put simply.
The second opener is bold the first is confident.
Other examples of boldness: -The apocalypse opener -Grabbing a girls arm when she is walking past -"I like salad.
" -Grabbing a girl on the dance floor -Going for the make out after a minute -Pushing for sex instead of just letting sex happen People are often mistaking boldness for confidence.
The apocalypse opener is a good experiment to try and I'm not saying you can't get laid from it but don't you think it's screwed up that lots of guys are more scared to go up and introduce themselves then to go up and ask the girl to come back to their bedroom? I know that's often the case with me.
Let's say you're talking to a girl for about a minute and its going great.
Then you try and kiss her.
What purpose does that serve? You're just trying to impress your mates; a truly confident person, a confident ladies man, would chill until a bit more time has passed.
I guess what I'm saying is this.
Yes, boldness has its place, and boldness is better than nothing.
But were not here to get dance floor make outs or to hide behind a gurus flashy techniques.
Try going up and introducing yourself with a calm voice.
Now that's real confidence.