One of the questions I'm most often asked is, "How do I tell my wife I'm afraid I might have ED?" My answer is always the same: "Don't fret about surprising or shocking her.
She already knows and is afraid to bring it up with you," So both of you are suffering in silence and aren't getting the love and support from the one person you most need it from, and are sure to get it from, each other.
Typically neither of you wants to start talking about it, and both of you blaming yourself for your troubles.
That's right, she blames herself.
More often than not, when something is wrong in the relationship, women blame themselves.
But more than just blaming, she's also having the same questions about her desirability and sexuality that you are.
Most women see all the wrinkles and extra padding that's accumulated over the years and are sure they're no longer desirable or appealing enough to keep you interested.
Meanwhile, you're sure that you won't be able to satisfy her, or even get close to satisfying her, if you can't keep a better erection than what you've been having, or think you should be having.
Enough already, enough of this suffering in silence.
Get it out in the open.
Don't wait for her to bring up the topic.
Take the lead.
You both need reassurance, and need to be part of the intimate team to start back on the road to sexual satisfaction.
And along the way, you'll forge a more intimate and closer bond within your relationship.
So, first things first, talk with her about what's going on, what you think and feel about her.
Be reassuring.
This is not the time to comment on her weight or shape, that comes later, as you start working together to get things back on track.