Ex Tips 104 - Show Them You"re Committed
Your ex needs to have certainty that you are going to provide stability, security and long-term happiness for them.
It is so important that you start doing things to reinforce that you can give these things.
1.
Become very friendly with their friends and family.
They must see that you are someone who will get along well with their close friends and family members.
If they feel in anyway that you will cause them to be isolated from these people, you raise a lot of issues involving their long-term happiness and sense of stability.
2.
Write a down your life goals.
Create a list of short, medium and long term goals.
These must include everything from your career, financial, relationship, family, lifestyle goals.
Be very detailed and create a list for 6months - 20+ years from now.
This may seem over the top, but they must feel secure with you over a long period.
Doing this act, actually helps to create a vision in their mind of the future.
This is a very powerful way to give them a sense of clarity and purpose.
3.
If you haven't already, start a mutual fund, RRSP and talk with them about plans for living in a more family styled atmosphere.
This will start making them think more about the long-term.
Considering important things like children, lifestyle, etc.
Showing them that you will go the extra distance distance to be with them for the long-term will make them feel safe and make them respect and appreciate you.
It is so important that you start doing things to reinforce that you can give these things.
1.
Become very friendly with their friends and family.
They must see that you are someone who will get along well with their close friends and family members.
If they feel in anyway that you will cause them to be isolated from these people, you raise a lot of issues involving their long-term happiness and sense of stability.
2.
Write a down your life goals.
Create a list of short, medium and long term goals.
These must include everything from your career, financial, relationship, family, lifestyle goals.
Be very detailed and create a list for 6months - 20+ years from now.
This may seem over the top, but they must feel secure with you over a long period.
Doing this act, actually helps to create a vision in their mind of the future.
This is a very powerful way to give them a sense of clarity and purpose.
3.
If you haven't already, start a mutual fund, RRSP and talk with them about plans for living in a more family styled atmosphere.
This will start making them think more about the long-term.
Considering important things like children, lifestyle, etc.
Showing them that you will go the extra distance distance to be with them for the long-term will make them feel safe and make them respect and appreciate you.