Want Your Beloved Back? Reignite Your Passion For Each Other
Some people hear the word "passion" and think strong sexual desire.
Okay, that can be one aspect of passion.
But that's not all there is to passion.
If it were, people would not refer to feeling passionately about a cause, or refer to their art or work as their passion.
If it were only sexual, that would be all you think about when you've broken up with your lover, and it isn't, is it.
When your lover leaves you, sex is the last thing on your mind, isn't it.
So passion can't be just about sex, even though that may be one way of expressing it.
In fact, passion encompasses a whole range of feelings you have for each other, but the origin of passion, the seed from which it springs, is Love.
Remember how, in the beginning, you couldn't get enough of being with each other? How you thought about each other it seemed like every other minute all day long? How every hour apart seemed WAY longer than 60 minutes? How your favorite daydreams were the last time you were together and how it would be when you were finally together again? Remember calling or texting each other multiple times a day, just to share something funny or say "hope you're having a good day" - or because you were having a not so good day and just needed to hear his voice? That is true passion, true love.
If he or she has left, no matter who did what to whom or who started it, if you truly love each other, guess what? You're back to feeling passionate about your ex.
You think about her all the time.
You want to call him every other minute.
Your daydreams are about what you did and said when you saw her last and what you should have done and said, and will, when you see him again.
And chances are, your ex is feeling the same.
You're both feeling passionate about each other.
What?!? But she screamed that she never wants to see me again! He said he can't stand to be around me! Last time we were together we had another huge fight! Good.
You both still feel passionate about each other ~ because the opposite of love is not anger or hate ~ it's indifference.
If there wasn't still love between you, nothing the other did or said would hurt you.
How does that help? Well, like most of the ills in nature, this kind of passion holds within it the balm, the cure ~ because both of these feelings are two sides of the same coin.
All you have to do is turn the coin over.
If you're reading this, you're probably already doing that.
If you want your ex back, you're probably already back to daydreaming about the good times you had together.
That time she accidentally spilled her whole glass of soda into your lap in the car, and then couldn't stop laughing even as she apologized over and over ~ and you loved the sound of her laughter so much, you just kept egging her on with one foolish and exaggerated poor-me statement after the other.
The time he took you to that pricey restaurant because he wanted to show you a really good time, and everything just kept going wrong.
The waiters were snooty, you waited forever for your food and then it wasn't what you'd ordered, and when he tried to clear up the mix up, the waiter took it as a personal insult.
Then when you finally did get what you ordered, it was cold and it tasted so awful neither of you could force yourselves to eat it ~ and all the while, he just kept trying harder and harder to salvage the evening, and it was the sweetest thing.
It was all those little things that bound you tighter together in the beginning ~ and it's those kinds of things that can bring you back together now.
Make a date with your ex, and spend the time together focusing on those close-making things about your relationship, the things that connect you to each other, and reignite the passion that makes you happier in each other's company than anyplace else in the world.
Agree to leave aside the problems that drive you apart for the moment, and then stick to it.
Make the time you've set aside for each other all about all the little things that connect you, and let the big things take care of themselves.
Revisit the days when you were so passionately in love with each other, remember all the funny little mistakes you made, laugh over them together, and you will have the beginnings of rebuilding your relationship.
Okay, that can be one aspect of passion.
But that's not all there is to passion.
If it were, people would not refer to feeling passionately about a cause, or refer to their art or work as their passion.
If it were only sexual, that would be all you think about when you've broken up with your lover, and it isn't, is it.
When your lover leaves you, sex is the last thing on your mind, isn't it.
So passion can't be just about sex, even though that may be one way of expressing it.
In fact, passion encompasses a whole range of feelings you have for each other, but the origin of passion, the seed from which it springs, is Love.
Remember how, in the beginning, you couldn't get enough of being with each other? How you thought about each other it seemed like every other minute all day long? How every hour apart seemed WAY longer than 60 minutes? How your favorite daydreams were the last time you were together and how it would be when you were finally together again? Remember calling or texting each other multiple times a day, just to share something funny or say "hope you're having a good day" - or because you were having a not so good day and just needed to hear his voice? That is true passion, true love.
If he or she has left, no matter who did what to whom or who started it, if you truly love each other, guess what? You're back to feeling passionate about your ex.
You think about her all the time.
You want to call him every other minute.
Your daydreams are about what you did and said when you saw her last and what you should have done and said, and will, when you see him again.
And chances are, your ex is feeling the same.
You're both feeling passionate about each other.
What?!? But she screamed that she never wants to see me again! He said he can't stand to be around me! Last time we were together we had another huge fight! Good.
You both still feel passionate about each other ~ because the opposite of love is not anger or hate ~ it's indifference.
If there wasn't still love between you, nothing the other did or said would hurt you.
How does that help? Well, like most of the ills in nature, this kind of passion holds within it the balm, the cure ~ because both of these feelings are two sides of the same coin.
All you have to do is turn the coin over.
If you're reading this, you're probably already doing that.
If you want your ex back, you're probably already back to daydreaming about the good times you had together.
That time she accidentally spilled her whole glass of soda into your lap in the car, and then couldn't stop laughing even as she apologized over and over ~ and you loved the sound of her laughter so much, you just kept egging her on with one foolish and exaggerated poor-me statement after the other.
The time he took you to that pricey restaurant because he wanted to show you a really good time, and everything just kept going wrong.
The waiters were snooty, you waited forever for your food and then it wasn't what you'd ordered, and when he tried to clear up the mix up, the waiter took it as a personal insult.
Then when you finally did get what you ordered, it was cold and it tasted so awful neither of you could force yourselves to eat it ~ and all the while, he just kept trying harder and harder to salvage the evening, and it was the sweetest thing.
It was all those little things that bound you tighter together in the beginning ~ and it's those kinds of things that can bring you back together now.
Make a date with your ex, and spend the time together focusing on those close-making things about your relationship, the things that connect you to each other, and reignite the passion that makes you happier in each other's company than anyplace else in the world.
Agree to leave aside the problems that drive you apart for the moment, and then stick to it.
Make the time you've set aside for each other all about all the little things that connect you, and let the big things take care of themselves.
Revisit the days when you were so passionately in love with each other, remember all the funny little mistakes you made, laugh over them together, and you will have the beginnings of rebuilding your relationship.