Are You Sick of Fighting With Your Ex? Do You Want Your Ex Back? Here Are 3 Things You Should Avoid
Are you sick and tired of arguing, yelling, and fighting with your ex? Do you want your ex back? Here are 3 responses to avoid.
The arguing and fighting will not go away unless you do something about it.
Doing nothing and expecting things to magically get better is insanity.
There are good ways and not so good ways to change behavior.
These are a few of the not so good ways to respond to the arguing, yelling, and fighting.
You should avoid doing these if you are thinking how can I get my ex back.
1.
Passive response: A passive response is really a non-confrontational approach.
This response is just trying to keep the peace and avoid any type of confrontation whatsoever.
The trouble with this is that after a while your ex will lose respect for you.
Passive response does not solve the problem.
Passive response is just avoidance versus action.
If you want to stop fighting with your ex this might work, but if you say to yourself I want to stop fighting and I want my ex back, then this may not be the best way for you to get your ex back after you stop fighting.
(The lack of respect will cause more stress on the relationship later on) 2.
Emotional Response: This is when the disrespectful behavior begins.
The emotions build inside and cause frustration.
Feeling frustrated may lead to lashing out.
Some of the first signs are small like sighing, or eye-rolling.
Once this point is reached it usually escalate to a point of a raised voice.
You will feel the tension in your voice.
Soon the level of yelling or screaming is reached.
Ironically you have reached this level trying to get the behavior to stop.
What happens next is your emotions increase and become very difficult to control.
You won't get your ex back with this response either.
3.
Physical Response: This is where abuse happens.
A physical response is an emotional response that's gone to the next level.
An emotional build up that has risen beyond your ability to control it and now manifests as a physical action.
This response is definitely not good if you want to repair a relationship with your ex.
So what is it that you need to do to stop this behavior? The first thing is to become aware of your emotions and when you notice them starting to build and increase just stop.
Do anything to cause a break in the tension.
Go to the restroom; get a drink of water, anything that will let you regain clear rational thought.
Your ability to think sensibly and come to a rational conclusion based on facts (why you are fighting) rather than emotion will be the key to solve problems and change behavior.
When you lose your ability to tap into your rational thought you cannot solve the problem, you are now isolated from any type of solution, knowing the right thing to do at the right time is not available to you.
What you have to learn is how to control the emotional response so that you can tap back into your logical thinking.
Once you have gotten control you can begin to think of ways to solve the issue a hand.
These are just the beginning steps to help you stop the fighting and get your Ex back.
If you would like to learn more you need to read a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up".
It will work like magic and you and your ex will be back together and more in love than ever.
Stop the fighting and start the making up now.
It's never too late to make up!
The arguing and fighting will not go away unless you do something about it.
Doing nothing and expecting things to magically get better is insanity.
There are good ways and not so good ways to change behavior.
These are a few of the not so good ways to respond to the arguing, yelling, and fighting.
You should avoid doing these if you are thinking how can I get my ex back.
1.
Passive response: A passive response is really a non-confrontational approach.
This response is just trying to keep the peace and avoid any type of confrontation whatsoever.
The trouble with this is that after a while your ex will lose respect for you.
Passive response does not solve the problem.
Passive response is just avoidance versus action.
If you want to stop fighting with your ex this might work, but if you say to yourself I want to stop fighting and I want my ex back, then this may not be the best way for you to get your ex back after you stop fighting.
(The lack of respect will cause more stress on the relationship later on) 2.
Emotional Response: This is when the disrespectful behavior begins.
The emotions build inside and cause frustration.
Feeling frustrated may lead to lashing out.
Some of the first signs are small like sighing, or eye-rolling.
Once this point is reached it usually escalate to a point of a raised voice.
You will feel the tension in your voice.
Soon the level of yelling or screaming is reached.
Ironically you have reached this level trying to get the behavior to stop.
What happens next is your emotions increase and become very difficult to control.
You won't get your ex back with this response either.
3.
Physical Response: This is where abuse happens.
A physical response is an emotional response that's gone to the next level.
An emotional build up that has risen beyond your ability to control it and now manifests as a physical action.
This response is definitely not good if you want to repair a relationship with your ex.
So what is it that you need to do to stop this behavior? The first thing is to become aware of your emotions and when you notice them starting to build and increase just stop.
Do anything to cause a break in the tension.
Go to the restroom; get a drink of water, anything that will let you regain clear rational thought.
Your ability to think sensibly and come to a rational conclusion based on facts (why you are fighting) rather than emotion will be the key to solve problems and change behavior.
When you lose your ability to tap into your rational thought you cannot solve the problem, you are now isolated from any type of solution, knowing the right thing to do at the right time is not available to you.
What you have to learn is how to control the emotional response so that you can tap back into your logical thinking.
Once you have gotten control you can begin to think of ways to solve the issue a hand.
These are just the beginning steps to help you stop the fighting and get your Ex back.
If you would like to learn more you need to read a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up".
It will work like magic and you and your ex will be back together and more in love than ever.
Stop the fighting and start the making up now.
It's never too late to make up!