When a relationship as smooth and ecstatic as yours, suddenly comes to a grinding halt, what do you do? How do you face this breakup? How do you know if your ex will want to get back with you or not? What is the next step that you should take? You can observe his moves and watch his reactions when you are around.
He may not want to hurt you outright, so he may try to soften the blow, by being kind in his behavior towards you, or even pretend to be amorous, at times.
How can you know whether he wants to let you down gently and get on with his life? You need to make a decision and you can only do so if you know the truth behind the matter.
Finding out the truth makes a big difference.
Getting him to talk to you and tell you the truth may not always work, but it is one way to discover what is really going on.
Or, you can observe him behaviors as the above paragraph mentions and figure out what he's telling you that way.
By showing your eagerness, to look for tell-tale signs that your relationship is going to last, you are pushing for the obvious.
If you stay calm and composed and do not react to his charming overtures, or flirtatious behavior, you will be able to keep cool and assess the situation correctly.
Do not send out feelers about your real feelings and give him the advantage.
This will give you leverage over the action that you will want to take.
Initially, you are terribly upset and miss him so much.
You may have said the worst things to each other and upset the other, but yet, when a breakup happens, you realize how much the other meant to you and how much of a void, this separation is going to make.
You recall the good times you spent in each other's company and think of the happiness you shared.
You suddenly find that you cannot bear the loneliness and hopefully, this may be a mutual feeling shared by both of you.
Sometimes your boyfriend will miss you over time, just like you are missing him.
So you may not be alone in what you are feeling, even though he dumped you.
So one thing you can do is check in with him every week or so and have a light chat about things and gauge and read his reactions.
There is one way of finding out.
Put the question upfront to him and ask, "Do you think we can ever get back together again?" Watch his reaction as he is faced with this outright question? It may reveal a lot as to his state of mind.
Not everything may be as easy as it may sound.
You should be able to figure out, if he is playing a role and leading you up the garden path, only to take his bittersweet revenge and teach you a lesson.
You may be unnecessarily reading between the lines but it is good to be prepared for the outcome, whatever it may be.
The ultimate decision to make up and have your lover back with you, is yours and yours alone.
If you feel he is sending you the right feelers and you are convinced they are genuine, you can truthfully answer the dilemma of, "Does my ex want to get back with me?" and enjoy the making up and hold on to what you have.
There is a whole bunch of things you can do differently once you get your ex back.
You can learn from your mistakes and from his to try to avoid trouble in the future.
You don't want to end up back in the same place, lamenting the loss of your lover a month down the road.
Once you have made up your mind to pick up the pieces and cement your relationship again, do it with the right frame of mind.
Keep up to your aim of enjoying your life and take up the challenge full-on.