Pre-Divorce Planning Checklist
Denial is never a good thing, not in marriage and certainly not in divorce.
Too many unhappily married couples spend years denying the possibility of divorce out of a fear that entertaining the option will guarantee the outcome.
Not so! The same way an airplane puts face masks and emergency supplies on every passenger seat (prepping for disaster but not anticipating it) is the same approach you've got to take when in an unhappy marriage.
You hope for the best and plan for everything else.
Planning ahead, in this circumstance, is vital.
Divorces aren't cheap.
If you're not earning your own money, you need time to find a job, start your own checking/savings account and save money.
That's not going to happen in a few months.
The best pre-divorce plans were put in place six to eighteen months prior to filing for a divorce.
The more time you allow for pre-divorce planning, the more opportunities you'll have for success throughout the divorce process, no matter what gets thrown at you.
Divorce does not have to be bitter but it oftentimes is.
It's important to approach your spouse with the goal of peace and, at the same time, be prepared to stand your ground should divorce pushing and shoving commence in the process.
Who you marry is rarely who you divorce and a pre-divorce plan lessens the blow from a wounded, hurting, resentful spouse who has decided to make you an enemy.
Bottom line: You cannot step into divorce with blinders on.
What can you do? Come up with a pre-divorce planning checklist that includes items such as: - target dates for hitting specific financial freedom thresholds and corresponding divorce actions - dates and times of key exchanges with your spouse that will support your divorce case - assets and liabilities held as marital property The best pre-divorce checklists meet the SMART criteria.
They are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time bound.
Having a pre-divorce planning checklist is a crucial component to a successful divorce.
If you don't have a clue on how to create your own pre-divorce planning checklist, take it to a pro.
It's vital!
Too many unhappily married couples spend years denying the possibility of divorce out of a fear that entertaining the option will guarantee the outcome.
Not so! The same way an airplane puts face masks and emergency supplies on every passenger seat (prepping for disaster but not anticipating it) is the same approach you've got to take when in an unhappy marriage.
You hope for the best and plan for everything else.
Planning ahead, in this circumstance, is vital.
Divorces aren't cheap.
If you're not earning your own money, you need time to find a job, start your own checking/savings account and save money.
That's not going to happen in a few months.
The best pre-divorce plans were put in place six to eighteen months prior to filing for a divorce.
The more time you allow for pre-divorce planning, the more opportunities you'll have for success throughout the divorce process, no matter what gets thrown at you.
Divorce does not have to be bitter but it oftentimes is.
It's important to approach your spouse with the goal of peace and, at the same time, be prepared to stand your ground should divorce pushing and shoving commence in the process.
Who you marry is rarely who you divorce and a pre-divorce plan lessens the blow from a wounded, hurting, resentful spouse who has decided to make you an enemy.
Bottom line: You cannot step into divorce with blinders on.
What can you do? Come up with a pre-divorce planning checklist that includes items such as: - target dates for hitting specific financial freedom thresholds and corresponding divorce actions - dates and times of key exchanges with your spouse that will support your divorce case - assets and liabilities held as marital property The best pre-divorce checklists meet the SMART criteria.
They are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time bound.
Having a pre-divorce planning checklist is a crucial component to a successful divorce.
If you don't have a clue on how to create your own pre-divorce planning checklist, take it to a pro.
It's vital!