How To Help Your Marriage Survive The Empty Nest
Your little Princess or Prince has finally graduated High School and is headed off to college.
You have about a month and a half before the only ones left in the house will be you and your spouse.
No more kids to pick up from school or take to soccer practice.
You have all the time in the world now to spend with each other.
You can take the long walks or carry on those long talks that you use to do.
The only problem is that you haven't done it in 18 years.
Maybe the following information can help your marriage survive the empty nest challenge you are facing.
For some couples sending the only or last child off to school is an exciting time.
Their vacations or lives are no longer tied to their child's school life.
However, for some couples it's a very scary and dangerous point in their marriage.
With no excuse available to not spend more time together, they will have to spend more time together or unfortunately realize that they don't want to spend time together.
It's clearly a critical point in the relationship when you have no excuse not to work on your relationship.
You can say that you don't have the money to go out to a fine restaurant but a romantic dinner at home doesn't have to cost much.
You can take walks, sleep in, shower together, work in the house together or do whatever allows you to spend time together and build your relationship.
If you are already enjoying the empty nest congratulations, to you and your spouse.
If you are unsure about the future of your marriage or if you can't be sure it will survive the empty nest, please consider doing the following;
The child or children may be gone but life has not ended but rather is entering into a new chapter.
Now is the time to focus on your spouse and your marriage.
Don't look at it as a time now to focus on you.
If you do you will surely expedite the end of your marriage.
Look at the empty nest as an opportunity to rekindle your love and strengthen your relationship.
You have about a month and a half before the only ones left in the house will be you and your spouse.
No more kids to pick up from school or take to soccer practice.
You have all the time in the world now to spend with each other.
You can take the long walks or carry on those long talks that you use to do.
The only problem is that you haven't done it in 18 years.
Maybe the following information can help your marriage survive the empty nest challenge you are facing.
For some couples sending the only or last child off to school is an exciting time.
Their vacations or lives are no longer tied to their child's school life.
However, for some couples it's a very scary and dangerous point in their marriage.
With no excuse available to not spend more time together, they will have to spend more time together or unfortunately realize that they don't want to spend time together.
It's clearly a critical point in the relationship when you have no excuse not to work on your relationship.
You can say that you don't have the money to go out to a fine restaurant but a romantic dinner at home doesn't have to cost much.
You can take walks, sleep in, shower together, work in the house together or do whatever allows you to spend time together and build your relationship.
If you are already enjoying the empty nest congratulations, to you and your spouse.
If you are unsure about the future of your marriage or if you can't be sure it will survive the empty nest, please consider doing the following;
- Don't over react - It's easy to feel overwhelmed and magnify the problem.
Try not to expect your marriage to blossom or self-destruct right after your nest is empty.
Take it slow and realize that it takes time to adjust to an empty nest.
The world is not ending just because you find that you don't have a lot to talk about.
Relax and work at rebuilding your relationship. - Avoid negativity - It's very easy to be sarcastic and negative when things aren't going according to plan.
Please keep in mind that no relationship ever gets better as a result of negative words, thoughts or actions.
I don't like to use the word never but this is one occasion when I feel strongly about avoiding something that can tear apart your marriage.
Negativity leads to defensiveness, rejection, bitterness and in some cases can lead to an affair.
Stay positive if you want to get your marriage moving in the right direction. - Making appointments with each other - Unless you force yourself and make plans to spend time together you won't.
You will find yourself waiting for each other to initiate spending time together and guess what.
Neither of you will make plans and this will lead to your relationship slowly fading away, while you blame each other.
Why not make it a joint effort to plan out your present and future together.
If the marriage does fail, and I pray that it doesn't at least you have both tried to make it work.
The child or children may be gone but life has not ended but rather is entering into a new chapter.
Now is the time to focus on your spouse and your marriage.
Don't look at it as a time now to focus on you.
If you do you will surely expedite the end of your marriage.
Look at the empty nest as an opportunity to rekindle your love and strengthen your relationship.