Marriage Counseling - Is It the Right Choice?
You can't even remember the last time you laughed together.
And the bedroom, well, there's nothing going on there either.
You love your partner but you wonder if you should consider marriage counseling.
There are a few marriage experts that think marriage counseling do not work unless both partners are committed to doing everything possible to save their marriage.
This means you make time for the sessions, you do the homework that's assigned and you communicate your thoughts and feelings to each other.
No matter what the problem is that has caused your relationship to suffer, marriage counseling can help.
A mediator can sometimes help you to discover things about your husband or wife that you were previously unaware of.
You may even uncover a truth about yourself.
However, you have to also understand that they are not miracle workers.
They cannot resurrect feelings in your partner, if those feelings are gone.
They cannot make your partner love you, want to be with you or stay married to you.
The love must still be there or no amount of marriage counseling will work.
Perhaps the love is buried under layers of anger, lack of intimacy, lack of communication or lack of appreciation.
A counselor can help with these problems.
Your Partner Refuses Marriage Counseling So what do you do? If you have a strong desire to save your marriage, then it's up to you to do whatever you can to make that happen.
For every action, there is a reaction.
Every change in you will create a change in him.
You can discover and learn how to change your relationship without any input on his part.
Of course this puts the entire burden of saving your marriage squarely on your shoulders.
Can you handle that responsibility? Is it worth it? If you said yes, then read on to discover how you can make a difference.
Change Your Attitude You must first truly believe you can save your marriage.
Have the attitude that your marriage will survive, even if you are the only one committed to its survivor.
You will do whatever it takes for how long it takes.
Failure is not an option.
There are programs geared toward only one person working on a marriage.
Most of them will work if you are committed.
You will discover what methods to employ to change your marriage for the better.
So don't despair, you can save your marriage.