3 Simple Tips to Prevent Divorce and Improve Your Relationship
If you are experiencing problems in your marriage and you feel that your once solid relationship is coming to an end with the impending prospect of divorce, it probably doesn't help to say that you don't have this on your own.
However, multitudes of couples have gone through similarly rough periods, and found themselves on the brink of divorce and managed to save their marriage.
By the same token there have been masses of people in troubled relationships who for one reason or another took the serious step of going through the process of divorce and came out the other side happy and content with their new status.
In our experience however, the majority of couples would prefer to iron out their marital problems and restore their marriage to a state of normality.
To this end there are a number of things that you can do to prevent a divorce before your troubles become insurmountable and divorce seems to be the only solution.
1) Don't try to resolve serious marital problems on your own and don't for goodness sake involve your family in your problems with a view to having them help you out of your difficulties.
Quite frankly, family involvement in these matters can cause more problems than they resolve.
It is by far preferable to undergo professional counseling or therapy.
An experienced counselor will have dealt with all the marriage problems that you could possibly imagine so your particular problem wont be at all unfamiliar to them be it infidelity, money or child issues or just general growing incompatibility.
2) Try and keep arguments and disputes at bay.
Make a real effort to discuss rather than argue--reason rather than dispute.
Continually remind yourself that you are endeavoring to prevent divorce not advance it.
3) You and your partner need to agree to commit to improving your relationship and demonstrate that commitment to each other.
Nobody is "right" all the time--when you are wrong admit it don't try to defend your opinion or actions.
When you feel that your partner is wrong use a little psychology and agree with any opinions that they have that you can accept, then subtly steer them around to your way of thinking.
Successful marriages are that way because both spouses are able to communicate, by word and by deed, in a way that couples in a troubled marriage can't, don't or wont.
Simply put, if you want to prevent the possibility of divorce then make an effort to improve your spousal communication.
However, multitudes of couples have gone through similarly rough periods, and found themselves on the brink of divorce and managed to save their marriage.
By the same token there have been masses of people in troubled relationships who for one reason or another took the serious step of going through the process of divorce and came out the other side happy and content with their new status.
In our experience however, the majority of couples would prefer to iron out their marital problems and restore their marriage to a state of normality.
To this end there are a number of things that you can do to prevent a divorce before your troubles become insurmountable and divorce seems to be the only solution.
1) Don't try to resolve serious marital problems on your own and don't for goodness sake involve your family in your problems with a view to having them help you out of your difficulties.
Quite frankly, family involvement in these matters can cause more problems than they resolve.
It is by far preferable to undergo professional counseling or therapy.
An experienced counselor will have dealt with all the marriage problems that you could possibly imagine so your particular problem wont be at all unfamiliar to them be it infidelity, money or child issues or just general growing incompatibility.
2) Try and keep arguments and disputes at bay.
Make a real effort to discuss rather than argue--reason rather than dispute.
Continually remind yourself that you are endeavoring to prevent divorce not advance it.
3) You and your partner need to agree to commit to improving your relationship and demonstrate that commitment to each other.
Nobody is "right" all the time--when you are wrong admit it don't try to defend your opinion or actions.
When you feel that your partner is wrong use a little psychology and agree with any opinions that they have that you can accept, then subtly steer them around to your way of thinking.
Successful marriages are that way because both spouses are able to communicate, by word and by deed, in a way that couples in a troubled marriage can't, don't or wont.
Simply put, if you want to prevent the possibility of divorce then make an effort to improve your spousal communication.