Reconcile my Marriage - Should you?
If you find yourself asking should I reconcile my marriage your not alone! A lot of couples are asking the same thing. The only way to know for sure is to seek out marriage counseling help or a neutral third party who can advise you.
Let me just say that under no circumstances should you ever reconcile a marriage if it has escalated to physical violence. People who physically abuse their spouses need professional help that you cannot give them.
With that being said , a lot of marriages really can be reconciled. When you first met your spouse you had butterflies, your heart was pounding and you probably just knew deep down inside that you could easily fall in love with this person. You began dating and finally enter into marriage and all is great for the first year or so.
Later at some point in your marriage after the romance is gone your sitting there wondering "what the heck did I get myself into" and now should I even try to " reconcile my marriage"?
There are a lot of reasons marriages fail, differences of opinions, finances, romance gone and a lot of spouses just completely "give up" on trying. They let themselves and their relationship go down the toilet. Common phrases are:
and the list goes on. Many spouses just stop being what they used to be, they have gotten so comfortable in the day to day living routine that they just forget they are still in a relationship that needs their attention.
A lot of people also fall into the Grass is always greener on the other side mentality. Or they wonder if there is someone out there better for them. Before you go looking and fall into the same pattern of marriage/divorce/marriage/divorce take the time to really work to reconcile This marriage before you go looking for the next. You never know, the one you gave up on could of turned into the one sitting by your bedside holding your hand at 90 years old.
Don't give up on your marriage just yet - Get help First
Let me just say that under no circumstances should you ever reconcile a marriage if it has escalated to physical violence. People who physically abuse their spouses need professional help that you cannot give them.
With that being said , a lot of marriages really can be reconciled. When you first met your spouse you had butterflies, your heart was pounding and you probably just knew deep down inside that you could easily fall in love with this person. You began dating and finally enter into marriage and all is great for the first year or so.
Later at some point in your marriage after the romance is gone your sitting there wondering "what the heck did I get myself into" and now should I even try to " reconcile my marriage"?
There are a lot of reasons marriages fail, differences of opinions, finances, romance gone and a lot of spouses just completely "give up" on trying. They let themselves and their relationship go down the toilet. Common phrases are:
- " you used to do that for me"
- " you used to be so romantic"
- " you used to be so much nicer"
- " Why don't you love me anymore"
and the list goes on. Many spouses just stop being what they used to be, they have gotten so comfortable in the day to day living routine that they just forget they are still in a relationship that needs their attention.
A lot of people also fall into the Grass is always greener on the other side mentality. Or they wonder if there is someone out there better for them. Before you go looking and fall into the same pattern of marriage/divorce/marriage/divorce take the time to really work to reconcile This marriage before you go looking for the next. You never know, the one you gave up on could of turned into the one sitting by your bedside holding your hand at 90 years old.
Don't give up on your marriage just yet - Get help First