Divorce And Kids In Today"s World
Marriage today is no longer an institution.
Couples who decide to marry sometimes are able to sustain their relationship for decades.
They are able to provide a stable home for their children.
The kids are emotionally secure in the knowledge that their parents love and respect each other.
They have good role models and examples in their parents.
They learn from them how to love and care for each other and learn the qualities of patience, forgiveness, tolerance, faithfulness, and honesty.
But in today's world, this is more and more becoming the exception rather than the norm.
Marriages sometimes fail mere days after they were created, when the haze of lust and alcohol clears up.
When there are children involved, the damage is on a very large scale.
Divorce and kids do not go well together.
If the children are very young when the divorce is finalized, the damage can be minimized.
Care must be taken that they are not taken to the court sessions unless absolutely required.
They must also be protected from any scenes of violence, anger or sorrow between the couple.
Images of parents yelling and getting physically violent will leave a lasting impression on even a very young mind.
In the case of older children, the damage is very difficult to control.
The drawbacks of divorce and kids are plentiful.
There is the feeling of being constantly uprooted, because they usually have to divide their time between the homes of both parents.
Then they have to accept strangers into their lives when one or both spouses decide to move in with or marry someone else.
This brings along the added complication of half-siblings.
These children must get use to having the attention and presence of only one parent at a time.
They very quickly learn to pit one against the other and use their parents guilt to their advantage.
Issues of discipline, allowances, dressing, etc.
soon become a three ring circus.
A more sensitive child will blame himself for the break up of his happy home.
This can change to serious emotional and psychological changes in his personality.
On the moral front, kids with divorced parents have no role models.
They become cynical about love and marriage and very selfish in their outlook.
Even if later in life, they are in a very good and fulfilling relationship, they always have the option of a divorce at the back of their minds.
So when the problems arise, most of them end the relationship.
Couples who decide to marry sometimes are able to sustain their relationship for decades.
They are able to provide a stable home for their children.
The kids are emotionally secure in the knowledge that their parents love and respect each other.
They have good role models and examples in their parents.
They learn from them how to love and care for each other and learn the qualities of patience, forgiveness, tolerance, faithfulness, and honesty.
But in today's world, this is more and more becoming the exception rather than the norm.
Marriages sometimes fail mere days after they were created, when the haze of lust and alcohol clears up.
When there are children involved, the damage is on a very large scale.
Divorce and kids do not go well together.
If the children are very young when the divorce is finalized, the damage can be minimized.
Care must be taken that they are not taken to the court sessions unless absolutely required.
They must also be protected from any scenes of violence, anger or sorrow between the couple.
Images of parents yelling and getting physically violent will leave a lasting impression on even a very young mind.
In the case of older children, the damage is very difficult to control.
The drawbacks of divorce and kids are plentiful.
There is the feeling of being constantly uprooted, because they usually have to divide their time between the homes of both parents.
Then they have to accept strangers into their lives when one or both spouses decide to move in with or marry someone else.
This brings along the added complication of half-siblings.
These children must get use to having the attention and presence of only one parent at a time.
They very quickly learn to pit one against the other and use their parents guilt to their advantage.
Issues of discipline, allowances, dressing, etc.
soon become a three ring circus.
A more sensitive child will blame himself for the break up of his happy home.
This can change to serious emotional and psychological changes in his personality.
On the moral front, kids with divorced parents have no role models.
They become cynical about love and marriage and very selfish in their outlook.
Even if later in life, they are in a very good and fulfilling relationship, they always have the option of a divorce at the back of their minds.
So when the problems arise, most of them end the relationship.